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Male Reluctance & The Pursuit Dilemma

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  • Post published:February 26, 2026
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Why aren't they approaching? If men have really stopped approaching, why? In her February 13, 2026 post on Medium, Ms. Edith Tali grappled with the question of why men have…

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The Trouble with All of It

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  • Post published:February 1, 2026
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Stay at Home Girlfriends...A Thing? Recently, an article by Career Ms. (of whose work I’m a borderline obsessive reader) posted an article on Medium, entitled Stay-at-Home Girlfriends. Subtitle—So apparently, I’m…

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When Love Isn’t Enough: Exploring Women’s Regrets in Relationships

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It's never easy, but somehow, it feels harder than ever, today. Recently a post appeared in my Medium feed, written by Thinks of Nadir. In her post entitled: I’ve Asked…

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Transactional Relationships—Aren’t they All?

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  • Post published:September 10, 2025
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Recently, an article landed in my inbox, driven as usual by the Medium algorithm. Given ,y standing interest in relationships, it was bound to land there. Especially since I  have…

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Update on Vol. III of the Knolan Cycle

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  • Post published:May 5, 2025
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The Oracle is Watching... As readers of Tier Zero and Eryinath-5 The Dancer Nebula, know, the Knolan Concordant has successfully resisted Valdrōsian attempts to raid their corner of the galaxy…

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Gender Wars, 2025-Scorched Earth?

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Maybe it's time to start working toward a better "us?" It's Not Our Imagination...the Paradigm Has Moved I grew up in a household in which the only competent adult was…

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Love is…

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  • Post published:December 16, 2024
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Happy Holidays I wanted to take a moment to wish everyone a happy holiday season and (especially) to thank you who have regularly visited the site over the past year.…

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President Biden and Democratic Bedwetting

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  • Post published:July 8, 2024
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All the angst and prognostications of gloom post-debate reveal a central reality most of the politically astute have always known. Democrats’ timidity to the point of near-paralysis is almost a…

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People, Honor and Power

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  • Post published:May 7, 2024
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What the Marines I Led Taught Me Khe Sanh, Quang Tri Province, Republic of Viet Nam, 1968 (Combat Camera, Public Domain) Last Memorial Day, my neighbor and I—Vietnam era vets—were…

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Like Wind I Go-A Short Story of Love and Loss

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  • Post published:March 11, 2024
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Iowa State Campanile Carillion Photo by Patrick Keep with our thanks The Campanile chimes the quarter hour. As though awakened by the bells, the autumn wind stirs, teasing my neck,…

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